Guys I miss LJ, should we just, like, go back there?
WE SHOULD or rather um sorry but not LJ I still propose Dreamwdith I know many ppl object but I’m so goddamn lost on tumblr and I want threaded replies and just. So. Goddamm. LOST. You have no idea how lost I am. I tried for years and then I stopped trying. There’s plenty of new platforms and stuff I’m willing to try but my brain is tumblr-resistant, perhaps allergic, and just, yeah, please, let’s go somewhere else I’m begging you.
I love it SO MUCHmarvel || battle royale
I’m not a mother but that has never stopped me from enjoying How Baby! I’m proud & happy to be a patron of Lindsay, even at a meagre level. You should check it out :))So, many of you might not know this because the streams so rarely cross, but my passion project is actually a webcomic called How Baby. It’s a (mostly) auto-biographical slice of life comic about motherhood, but through the lens of being a nerd, a fangirl, a feminist, and someone who didn’t take to the mantle of ‘motherhood’ very smoothly. It’s funny sometimes, it’s sad sometimes, it’s angry sometimes - just like motherhood.
It updates twice a week, and there’s over 250 strips now, all free to read. It’s ad-free and supported almost entirely by patrons! It’d do me a solid if you’d take a look, read it, and, even if it doesn’t appeal to you personally, share it around on social media with the moms in your life! Thanks. :)
identities, slurs, and safe spaces
So let’s talk about “q-slur.”
The word queer has been used to inflict a lot of damage. This fact is the basis for both the fierce claiming of the word as an identity and the fierce rejection of it as a slur. I work with older LGBT people (ages 50-100+) and this subject comes up occasionally, with strong opinions on both sides. Increasingly frequently, I’m seeing younger people on Tumblr with similarly strong opinions. In my daily life, I mostly spend time with people between the ages of 25 and 45 who are startled to learn that this is even a conversation because they thought it was settled once and for all in the ‘90s. There seems to be a lot of miscommunication happening here on a lot of different axes.
Many of these arguments center around accusations of historical ignorance. Some people think those who identify as queer don’t know about the word’s history as an insult; some people think those who call it a slur don’t know about the movement to reclaim it during and after the height of the AIDS epidemic. I think, in general, neither of these accusations is correct (though if anyone is interested in learning more about the history of the word, there’s a brief rundown here and also an excellent in-depth graphic novel on the subject.) As far as I can tell, most everyone is pretty much clear on the basic facts of the word’s usage over the years; the conflict is more complicated than that. It’s about consent, and everyone involved perceiving theirs as violated. Those who reject the word “queer” feel that they are under attack when they are subjected to a derogatory term against their will. Those who identify as queer feel that they are under attack when their identity is treated as if it were the derogatory term they fought so hard to divorce it from being.
I see a lot of people on Tumblr saying that they don’t feel particularly strongly about the word, but they don’t see any harm in tagging it for those who do. There’s a lot to unpack there, given that the “slur” label itself is the primary issue for queer-identified people, but I want to point out something I haven’t seen mentioned much in these discussions: the people who use the word “queer” most often are those who don’t feel like they fit into other standard categories, which means that the more widespread the practice of “q-slur” tagging becomes, the more nonbinary/pansexual/marginalized voices are silenced. These conversations have focused on the question of whether the word “queer” should be used, but not on the reality that it is used, and the practical ramifications of excluding the massive number of people who do use it from discourse.
The word queer has been used to inflict a lot of damage. So has the word gay. So has the word dyke. So will the next word we create to escape all that damage. They will use every one of our words against us, no matter who started using them first. Do we let them define us? Or do we define ourselves?
Can we please put all of them on a runway? I just got my life
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For some reason Tumblr won’t let me *paste* the post I prepared (WTF?) and because it has all the proper header and links for this work, I don’t have the energy to type it all again tonight. So you get a short spiel and one overarching link:
This work also lives on AO3, with all the info you might want (and a place to leave kudos or comments, which I treasure)
I used to make Tumblr audio post using a goo.gl shortener link for the embedded audio, bc that allowed me to know how many times people had listened to the stream (or started listening, anyway), but apparently this is now impossible. Sadness.
Disokouroi was recorded for Jenepel on the occasion of #ITPE 2016.
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#STOPBANNON Phone Jam!
Tie Up Trump’s Phone Lines Until White Supremacist Steve Bannon is Booted from the White House! #StopBannon #PhoneJam!
Guess what, Donald? We’re not about to let you conduct business as usual with a white supremacist, anti-Semite, and misogynist as chief strategist of the White House. Let politicians collude with this travesty, and the media normalize it, but we’re drawing a line for basic human decency.
Trump told the New York Times on 11/22 that he won’t be separating his business empire from the presidency. OK then. Let us jam the phone lines of every single Trump business with a flood of free speech until he cancels the appointment of Steve Bannon.
The numbers are listed just below! All you need to do is make polite but long-winded calls, the more of them the better. Please be kind and respectful to the people who answer these phones, even as you keep them on the line as long as you possibly can. Let’s tie up every Trump hotel, every Trump golf course, every Trump spa, and even his winery with messages of opposition to Steve Bannon (sometimes, perhaps, only offered after, say, lengthy exploration of the possible rooms for rent in a particular Trump hotel).
To make this really effective, we need it to spread widely—please reblog, invite your friends, and post the Facebook event in groups you belong to!
Some of these numbers are answered 24/7, some just during limited hours. If you can’t get through, it means the protest is working – try a different number, or try again.
Trump Tower
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877-828-7080 or 212-842-5500
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877-450-8866
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732-696-9000
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LET’S GET READY, IT STARTS TOMORROW! :D :DThe #InformalTwitterPodficExchange is back for Year Six! We’re a low-key multi-fandom podfic exchange that runs mid-October to December 25th.
You’ll need a Twitter account to play! Look for the #ITPE hashtag and make sure you follow @ITPE_mod. We’ll be posting full exchange details and sign-ups there on October 10th (2016).
Wait up, is NYC the only metropolis in the world teeming with busy people? No, no it is not. This ‘pratical necessity’ is not a necessity; while perceived as such, it’s a cultural specificity. I might speculate that it’s borne more out of the puritan & capitalist drive to make every damn second 'productive’ than anything else - but whether that’s right or not, who cares, my point is that NYC is not unique in its business. Also, while obviously on a personal level it’s legit that someone might be shocked when discovering that other places have other cultural mores, calling this very fact bizarre sure is really bizarre to me.Natalie Portman being confused by the fact that you have to say “hi” to someone before starting a conversation in France got me like ?????
“I feel there’s a lot of rules of politeness and codes of behavior there you have to follow. […] A friend of mine taught me that when you go in some place you have to say “bonjour” before you say anything else, then you have to wait two seconds before you say something else. So if you go into a store you can’t be like “do you have this in another size,” or they’ll think you’re super rude and then they’ll be rude to you.” [X]
So that’s it guys. French are not rude, we just don’t like it when people don’t say “Hello” or “Hi” when they start a conversation.
Don’t everyone say “Hi” before they ask something to someone? What’s next? Saying please is also a french thing or others countries does that too?
Canada is similar. We say sorry and please. The Hello thing seems strange, but it actually makes sense.
Bro, this threw me for a loop when I moved up north. Like in the southern United States you say “Hi, how are you?” And then make a few seconds of small talk before you ask your question or order your food and when I went to Connecticut they were like “What do you want?” Without any hello or anything. In other places they just STARE at you waiting on you to place your order and gtfo.
I laid my hand over my chest the first time, and the only way to describe my look was “aghast” before I said “Good lord!” My husband said it’s the most southern thing he’s seen me do. He thought it was hilarious. But…. Like??? That’s rude as fuck??????? Don’t y'all say say “Hello” before throwing your demands at someone??
maybe this is why everyone thinks new yorkers are rude
this is absolutely why ppl think new englanders r rude. no one has any fucking manners
african culture, at least in ghana, demands you greet a person before you ask them something. if youre in an open market they may even ignore you if you dont.
We do this in Australia as well. If you just started straight off saying “yeah I want XXXX” we’d think you’re rude as all fuck. You say hi, then make your request. It’s basic acknowledgement of the other person as a person rather than some random request-filling machine.
Huh. Speaking as a New Englander, I usually go with “Excuse me,” but sometimes “hi” or “hey,” but with no pause – it’ll be, “Excuse me, hi, I was looking for X?” From my POV, it seems rude to get too chatty and waste some stranger’s time; I assume they have better things to do than make small talk with me, so I just get my request out there so they can answer me and get back to whatever needs doing. I always thank folks for their help afterwards, if that helps?
(The rules of etiquette are strange. People say New Englanders are rude and cold, but once during an unexpected snowstorm here in Seattle, my car got stuck and I was standing by the side of the road at a busy intersection in the snow for half an hour waiting for my housemate to come pick me up, and not a single person stopped. Back in Massachusetts, every other car on the road would’ve been pulling up to check to see if I was okay, if my phone was working, did I need a lift, etc.)
No but this was the first thing my cousin told me in France? you never ever ever start a conversation with anyone, not even like “Nice weather today, huh?” without saying Bonjour first. You HAVE to greet them or, just like Ghana, they’ll ignore the shit out of you, you rude little fucker
(And “excuse me” or “pardon me” doesn’t cut it. you still have to open with bonjour)
[and I can’t speak for New England but coming from Chicago and then moving Out West where the culture is VERY influenced by the South and DETERMINED to think of themselves as small town folk… I HATE when I have to make small talk before ordering food??? Like, if it’s a coffee shop that’s pretty much empty I’ll chit chat for a few seconds, but I’m still not going to make inane conversation about the weather unless the weather is extreme.
In a big city it is rude as fuck to waste my time making small talk with me when we are not even friends or neighbors??? I am here to get shit done. There are four other people in line behind me, and I don’t want to waste their time. I am here, I HAVE MY ORDER ALREADY DECIDED BY THE TIME I GET TO THE FRONT BECAUSE I AM NOT A CAVE WOMAN, and I am being polite by saying both Please and Thank You and not wasting other people’s daylight.]
I live in a small northern city, and I feel it would be rude to engage someone in more than maaaaaybe a sentence of small talk before placing my order. In addition to feeling I was wasting their time, I’d feel like I was demanding emotional labour (small-talk is emotional labour for *me*) that they weren’t being paid to give.
so bizarre. New Yorker here. Saying hi, how are you, etc before these kinds of commercial interactions is what’s rude to me - because ffs, there are people in line behind you, we have lives, move it along. It’s really just a dramatic cultural difference - but borne of a real practical necessity.